Final Days

Babaji was the first person in my young life that died. I do not remember it as a heartrending tragedy though. I was more curious than sad. During our last visit he was confined to a hastily built room at the far end of our verha. Bhabiji was the only person I saw going in and out of that room to take care of him. I was strictly forbidden to go near the room. I imagined tuberculosis as an invisible shrieking banshee that would jump out of his body and possess mine if I went near him. I saw Babaji sitting on the cot in his room, with his head hanging down in deep thought, sitting without moving for long periods. He never looked my way and I lost interest. Other people from our village and nearby villages would come visit him over the strong objections of chachajis. They would come, sit outside the room and talk to him through the window. They would come to inform him about their son's marriage or pick an auspicious date for their daughter's wedding. They would bring their newborns to be blessed by him. They often brought their family or communal disputes to him. They trusted his wisdom and had faith in his justice. Babaji was always revered by the villagers but now his imminent death and stoic acceptance of it made him a saint in their eyes. They brushed away the family's gloom and doom precautions and kept their own vigil for him. In spite of all this he was alone in isolation. As I write this my adult heart aches for him. But as a child I took it in stride.

Tuberculosis in those days was an incurable and a dreaded diagnosis. Babaji first got this infection a decade earlier, in a wound on his leg that had been festering for months. The family at that time was still in Santpura. He was making some repairs on the roof of his house when he slipped and fell down. The village masseuse set the broken bone in his leg but could not heal the open wound. Many types of poultices were tried but to no avail. By the time he went to the doctor in the city tuberculosis had taken hold over there. His leg was immediately amputated to save his life. Soon India became independent and our family found itself a refugee in a new land. Claiming the reallottment of his lands, the waiting in the crowded courts for this and settling his young family in Bakshiwala forced him to adjust to one leg life with no time to ponder over it. Walking on the uneven surface of rural geography must have been very hard. But he managed. Having grown sons helped. More than a decade passed before he was diagnosed with tuberculosis again. He had been complaining of chronic cough. When taken to the doctor the diagnosis became clear from his chest X-ray. His lungs were like a sieve. He was pronounced highly infectious and given a couple of months to live. The family panicked and put him in extreme isolation.

Papaji was posted in Nagpur at the time, a city hundreds of miles away. We quickly packed and came home for a hasty visit. The house in the village was very still and very quiet. On the last day babaji came out and sat on a cot outside the kitchen. Everyone lined up to do paripana. Biji sobbed as she touched his feet. I was holding her hand. In sikh culture daughters do not have to do paripana. But I saw babaji's big toe with a ridged, uneven brown nail and instinctively brushed it with my finger. I felt his hand gently bless me. That was the last I saw of him. The next thing I remember is that we were back in Nagpur and received a telegram from the village. Biji started crying loudly. Kailash bhuaji, who had come with us, collapsed on a chair and sobbed noiselessly. Papaji sat quietly on a chair in the front room. Our neighbors came and stayed the whole day. Babaji had died. It was May 15th, 1958 that day.

We immediately set out for the village. By the time we reached Babaji had been cremated. His room had been burned down along with everything that he had touched in it. We were either inoculated from exposure or did a good job with isolation because none of us ever contracted tuberculosis. Our village and all the other surrounding villages mourned babaji's death. The scattered family from Santpura came to visit. Babaji's only sister came with her family. Babaji was fifty-eight years old at the time and people said he had lived a good, long life. He was given an elder's funeral.